Originally Posted by bryan_luoma
You are in a group of 5 players playing golf on an OPEN course (a course that is not closed for an event). You notice that a twosome is following closely and watching you tee off for a few consecutive holes.
If the twosome finally asks to throw-down with your group in order to play-through, what is your response?
Should the twosome just relax and not attempt to play through?
Should the group of five just let the group of two through?
Does it matter if there are a lot of other large groups on the course that the twosome will have to navigate?
I would have asked them if they wanted to play through the first time they caught up to me at the tee, given that they are moving faster, and regardless of who else is on the course that they may have to play through. It's proper etiquette AND I much prefer to have them in front of me and not behind me at every tee box.
I play a lot of solo rounds and have no problem asking to play through, but nothing ticks me off more than the big group who not only never offers, but continues to throw multiple tee shots, and then saunters off down the fairway as soon as I catch up to them at the tee. People are almost always willing to let me play through when I ask, and I always ask politely, tell them I'll be quick, hustle to clear the hole without rushing myself, and say thanks when I am done.
Proper etiquette is too often neglected, even by people who should know better. This past weekend during the WVWS event at Dexter a group of two women and a four or five year old was on the not reserved
course the same time as the tournament was taking place. They easily caught up to my foursome and I suggested we let them play through because: A. they were playing faster than us, B. I didn't want them behind us at every tee, and C. I'd like beginners, women and kids to have a good time and not see tournament players as inconsiderate jerks with bad etiquette.
They took a bit longer than a more experienced threesome to play the hole, but no longer than the tournament group ahead of us who was also playing slowly. As we approached the next tee, we were questioned by the group ahead of us as to why we let them play through and I offered my personal rationale. They had let them continue to play through as well but seemed miffed to have to do so "because you guys did". No big deal, the round was moving quickly overall and it was a nice day, everybody relax and have fun, right?
Wrong! A member of the group 2 HOLES
in front of us decided that the kid or someone in the group we let play through had somehow disturbed him on the adjacent fairway in the midst of all his intense concentration and incredible skill. After yelling at the two beginner women and the four year old he proceeded to yell at the top of his lungs at both my group and the group in front of us about our "HORRIBLE DECISION"!!!!! and then stalk off to his next hole like a petulant pre-teen with a full diaper.
All this during a non-sanctioned winter series tournament moving quickly on a beautiful morning on a course open at the time to anyone who wanted to play it. A few holes later, as the two women and the four year old were again waiting on a slower moving tournament group in front of them, the group in front of us insisted that they now be allowed to play through the smaller, faster group because they "paid to play here today". This was told to us by the now frustrated and angry woman who had cheerily thanked us and asked us about the tournament as we let them play through a few holes earlier. She said that they had been treated rudely by several groups of us and was really surprised because the only other tournament she had experienced was the Eugene Celebration when she had a great time playing in her first tournament. Here was someone getting into disc golf and bringing a friend and a child out to check it out.
Well, we really showed her didn't we? Rather than just let the smaller, faster group of beginner women and a four year old play through and get out of everyone's way as quick as possible since they were playing faster than all the tournament groups, and the course wasn't closed to the public, we successfully made them feel ill-treated, unwelcome and anxious and destroyed the good will we had previously established.
I hope they accepted our sincere apology on behalf of the tournament and players and won't hold it against the sport or the club or scene. And I hope the d-bag with the temper and lack of skill grows up.